“Middle-class parents tell their children to reach out to the teacher and ask questions. Working-class parents see asking for help as disrespectful to teachers, so they teach their children to work out problems themselves.”
My kindergarten teacher was a mean old lady named Ms. Cross (sometimes life is a short story), and one day she called home to say I was causing serious behavioral problems in class. She wouldn’t say what it was, just that my parents needed to come in immediately. Apparently the issue was I had been raising my hand too often to answer questions. “It’s making the other children feel bad,” she said. “We need to work out a solution to stop him.”
To this day, my mother swears, it’s the closest she ever came to punching a woman.
A lot of the trouble I got in came from wanting to know things. Then I dropped out of high school so I could go learn.